So, I've slowed down on dating. I was seeing a few guys casually, but no one that I felt any connection with. For this reason, I don't think online dating is for me.
Chemistry is organic, you can't force it. And when reading a profile, sure, someone can sound good on paper and when you meet, there's no spark. I always had a suspicion this may be the case if you met someone from the internet.
And here's why: Pheremones.
Pheremones are a CRITICAL part of your attraction to someone. How can the internet take THAT into account. It can't. And the last time I met someone and felt that instant attraction was Eclectic Listener over a year ago. When we met, we both felt something. And yes, physically I found him attractive, and I'm sure he found me attractive. but, there was something else. It was just an instant chemistry that could probably be chalked up to pheremones. It felt amazing, and is probably the reason thst when we are together, everything feels soooooo good. I don't want to settle for anything less than that. Eclectic Listener has told me he knew then that we would end up in bed together. After that quick 5 minute meeting he knew. That's intense. And it still is. I wish we were still together, but we're not. We are just doing what feels natural. And I'm going to keep doing that until it doesn't feel right anymore. Maybe someday I will meet someone again, and his subconscious will be attracted to my subconscious. Subconsciously.
